Ladies and Alcohol

I decided to drop something on this as a result of a challenge I am faced with tight now and I would love to get advice on how I can be of help to this lady. We have been friends since our high school days and we actually met when she came over to my school back then for summer classes, she attended a different high school. We got closer as good friends when we were about securing our admission into the same university. It was great having both us in the same university, liked her and took her as my sister. I didn’t know too much about her but I always tried my best to do that whenever we were together. I felt so bad when I got to discover that she takes alcohol. According to her, she has been doing this since she was in high school, I wasn’t pleased with this and I tried what I could to stop her but it generated into something else likened to be the beginning of we disliking each other. I tried advising her and I was also scared after she had told me about several attempts of rape on her whenever she was drunk. Right now, we are not as close as we used to and this started when I brought up this issue. How best can I go about addressing this? I need to stop her before it’s too late.

Is it a must he goes overseas….?

Last weekend, a very good friend of paid me a visit and in the course of our chat I asked after some of our high school friends and how frequent he has been getting from them. I was so shocked when he told me that one of our high school friends is still pushing and wanting to travel to the States for his education after visa denial. I was shocked. I asked of what he has been doing for the past 3years. It was good to get that he is a certified professional of one the IT courses offered in APTECH, Maryland.

Another question that came up[ was what has been doing with this? Guess what the response was? He has been a school bus driver for almost 2 years! Shocking, isn’t it? A high school graduate & ICT graduate from one of the best ICT schools in Lagos, Nigeria is a school bus driver? Why? What kind of profile is he trying to build for himself & for the future? What is stopping him from seeking admission into one of Nigeria’s great Universities to further his education? He is still very young. Must he travel outside the country? When everyone outside the country is running back home to settle down, he is thinking of running away. Fortunately for him, he has wealthy parents who can afford the bills but the American embassy has refused him visa. Is this a genuine excuse for him to be a School Bus Driver, when he could start up a business for himself with support of his parents? What is the use of the IT education after high school? This is the best time to explore the ICT industry and he is doing something else. Something needs to be done on time and his orientation needs to be changed on time.

Dating on Campus

I would be focusing on love and dating affairs among folks who are on the same campus. Personally, I have always had a different side to this topic right from my days in high school. Sincerely, I don’t know the A-Z of the good and bad part of dating or everything that has to do with issues related to this but I can say I know the modest thing to do and how to go about it for myself. While still in high school, I considered myself lucky to have had elderly ones who served like role models and mentors and they still do. I was able to decide on what I wanted and how I wanted it achieved.

I never liked the idea of dating someone in the same compound or environment. My reasons are not far fetched from the fact that, I would loose concentration. I ones experimented this while in my Junior Classes ( can you just imagine that?), but I wasn’t myself academically. Instead being famous in my academics, I was famous for being th first guy to date the hottest girl in my set. lol…. thanks to my mum who got me out of the it. Fortunately and unfortunately, she came across those letters and cards that we wasted our pocket money getting for each other and seized them till date, hmmmmm, sweet mama. Lol. Let me spare you the details of my parolz in high school. lol

To avert this, I chose the other way and I had counsellors. Sincerely and obviously, nothing good comes cheap. I am not saying its bad to date on campus but discover what is right for yourself first, and wont be harmful to you as well before diving. It could be sweet but might be a silent killer, you never can tell.
Don’t do things because others are doing it.